A very hot topic at the moment is undoubtedly social media and the safety around its usage. Does it have any benefit? Should you ban your son from using it altogether? Is there anything you can do about it? An article published by Orygen, The National Centre of Excellence in Youth Mental Health, is an interesting and informative read that will answer a lot of these questions with supporting relevant and recent research. You can find the link below this article.
The benefits
The main points expressed are the fact that social media has many benefits for young people ranging from maintaining meaningful connections to accessing mental health support in a non-stigmatising way. Interestingly, the article states, "Social media use is not necessarily inherently unhealthy. If individuals are able to set limits for themselves, and use social media with self-awareness and discretion, then it can be a very positive tool”. Therefore, it is about helping your child use social media in a safe manner, understanding both the benefits and challenges it presents.
Harnessing the benefits
The article also addresses the idea of restricting access to social media and how that can foster the perception of it as "forbidden fruit". The researchers propose to build a trusting relationship with your son so he can both have his privacy and feel that he can discuss personal information or concerns with you. The researchers argue that empowering your child to use social media in a safer way is more effective than completely restricting its usage. Creating a culture of communication at home is key.
What to look out for
However, on the flip side, social media can be a cause of distress for young people. The article addresses the idea of the parent having to distinguish between "the storm and the stress", which can apply to life also outside of the world of social media. The article gives a comprehensive list of warning signs to look out for that could indicate a negative experience your child is having online, including but not limited to, appearing nervous or jumpy when using their device(s), or even becoming abnormally withdrawn. As stated, there are many more listed in the article.
What you can do
The article also offers some tips on what you can do as a parent when you are worried about your child. The main thing to remember is to communicate your concern calmly and compassionately. It also indicates what do to if your child is experiencing a range of different emotions, including low mood and suicidal ideation. Research has consistently found that asking someone about this directly and unambiguously does not increase their risk; it can in fact reduce suicidal ideation. If there is a life in danger, please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.
Please click on the link below to read about these topics in more depth. If you have any further questions or concerns, please don't hesitate to contact the School Counsellors.
https://www.orygen.org.au/About/News-And-Events/2018/parents-social-media
Until next time,
Alessandro.
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